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Tethering Grace & Togetherness

Growth in the Quiet Places, (or why I only need one shoe.)

March 10, 2015 by HappyGoStuckey 16 Comments

Confession time: I am a terrible gardener.

That is not to say I don’t love plants and flowers– because I do. I love the idea of having produce and flowers at my fingertips year round– and I love a little trip to Lowe’s garden center as much as anyone… but that is usually as far as it goes. I forget my plants. I neglect to water them. I love them and take photos of them to plaster on Instagram like any mother earth would– and then I completely forget they even exist.

It’s Lorelai Gilmore and Skippy the Hamster all over again.

Until the plants die, and then I’m crushed and I curse the Georgia clay and the beautiful shade-producing trees in our backyard and then my sweet husband reminds me that they lived a half life of being dehydrated most of the time. Oops.

So this year I purposed to be different, starting with the hydrangeas in our front yard. So much so that I pinned thoughts on taking care of them. Quickly learning I needed to “winterize” them by pruning before the buds came in, I marched outside armed with my pruning shears and big fat plans to get them ready for spring. (Spoiler alert, hydrangeas have to be pruned way before winter is nearly over, so if you’re reaching for your own pruning shears– I have to break it to you– we both missed the boat this year.) 

As I approached my brown, spindly dead-looking hydrangeas, I was completely startled to see them bearing new buds. In a yard full of dry, dormant plants, and without any help from me– they were pushing forward to the next thing. These tiny buds of spring were startling to me and I thought about them for several days. Even now, they remind me that not only is Spring coming– and we can’t stop it even if we try.

New growth comes after these seasons of quiet, of rest, of space where it seems nothing is happening for crying out loud. 

And though I know I need rest, I want specific rest. I want rest in my way, in the manner and form that I think I need it. So often I think of rest as something I willingly choose and enjoy with a good book or a pedicure.

But sometimes rest is exactly the opposite of desirable.

Sometimes rest is that which puts us in a place that feels ten steps back.

Two weeks ago, I had the amazing honor of speaking to a group of women on the topic of rest, margin and whitespace. I told them something along the lines of, “Beware of not allowing yourself to rest– God knows you need it, and He just might give it to you.”

And then. Two days later I sat in an Orthopedist’s office as he gave me this:

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Stress Fracture. Hello, six week boot. I am not pleased to meet you.

And I pitched a royal fit. Not in his office because well, I have some decorum.

But after, and I’m somewhat ashamed to say that every day since then I’ve asked the question with all the whine of a petulant child, “REALLY? Why now?” 

Clearly, I don’t mind slowing down on my terms. Every afternoon around 2:30 I slow down with coffee and words. Each night around 10PM I slow down with Wild Orange Oil and a fluffy pillow. But slow down in such a way that makes me miss my favorite form of exercise for six weeks and leaves me hobbling eight steps behind my children like a frustrated female version of Downton Abbey’s John Bates? No, thank you. 

Le Sigh. But there is a purpose to this “rest time” and as much as I come into it kicking and screaming, I certainly do not wish to waste it.

If the budding Hydrangeas have taught me nothing else… I know that the quiet should not be underestimated– for growth is happening under the surface.

And that things happen when we embrace the rest. Embrace the empty-spaces. Embrace the time where it appears nothing is happening. 

And even though this lesson is one I have been learning way back when it was still last year,

I am choosing again, anew, to respect the process and soak it all in. 

 

What process are you soaking in today? Would love your thoughts. <3

 

Prepping for Easter (and a book review!)
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Comments

  1. Meredith Bernard says

    March 10, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    Oh friend, I’m so sorry about your foot! And you made me laugh out loud, comparing yourself to John Bates from DA. 😛 This is so true, though…we should be eager to embrace the time when it appears nothing is happening. We have similar “greenish-brown” thumbs. I love plants..in the spring and fall. i hate weeds and weeding and watering, so it’s a love/hate relationship. And right now, it appears all is dead…but it’s not. In a few weeks what is brown will start to turn green and I’ll get giddy. And curse the weeds at the same time. All that to say, YES, embrace these days of waiting with an anticipation that awaits what God has coming next. Love you! Take care of that foot.xo

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:45 pm

      Thank you friend for the words of encouragement. It’s always a bright spot to hear from you! <3 Oh and I'm glad I'm not the only one to hate watering! Ha!

      Reply
  2. Meredith Bernard says

    March 10, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    Oh friend, I’m so sorry about your foot! And you made me laugh out loud, comparing yourself to John Bates from DA. 😛 This is so true, though…we should be eager to embrace the time when it appears nothing is happening. We have similar “greenish-brown” thumbs. I love plants..in the spring and fall. i hate weeds and weeding and watering, so it’s a love/hate relationship. And right now, it appears all is dead…but it’s not. In a few weeks what is brown will start to turn green and I’ll get giddy. And curse the weeds at the same time. All that to say, YES, embrace these days of waiting with an anticipation that awaits what God has coming next. Love you! Take care of that foot.xo

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:45 pm

      Thank you friend for the words of encouragement. It’s always a bright spot to hear from you! <3 Oh and I'm glad I'm not the only one to hate watering! Ha!

      Reply
  3. Jolene says

    March 10, 2015 at 6:52 pm

    Oh my! Not fun 🙁 Hope your time in that boot goes fast 🙂

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      Thank you Jolene! We’re one week down already so hooray for time moving!

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  4. Jolene says

    March 10, 2015 at 6:52 pm

    Oh my! Not fun 🙁 Hope your time in that boot goes fast 🙂

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      Thank you Jolene! We’re one week down already so hooray for time moving!

      Reply
  5. Faith Raider says

    March 11, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Yes!!! These quiet places can be the best for growing even if it’s hard to see what’s going on. I call them the under-ground seasons, or the root-growing season because everything is growing in hidden places and it’s hard for me to even see what is happening or growing until the next season comes and those sprouts start to spring up…

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      I love that, Faith. Root Growing Season. I can definitely always use time to go deeper and stronger, that’s certain. Thank you for your words.

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  6. Faith Raider says

    March 11, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Yes!!! These quiet places can be the best for growing even if it’s hard to see what’s going on. I call them the under-ground seasons, or the root-growing season because everything is growing in hidden places and it’s hard for me to even see what is happening or growing until the next season comes and those sprouts start to spring up…

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    • happygostuckey says

      March 11, 2015 at 2:46 pm

      I love that, Faith. Root Growing Season. I can definitely always use time to go deeper and stronger, that’s certain. Thank you for your words.

      Reply
  7. happygostuckey says

    March 15, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Love you so much. Messages from you always brighten my day, friend. Grateful to call you family. <3

    Reply
  8. happygostuckey says

    March 15, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Love you so much. Messages from you always brighten my day, friend. Grateful to call you family. <3

    Reply

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