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What I Learned in October

November 2, 2015 by HappyGoStuckey 3 Comments

WhatilearnedOh, October. I do love you so– from your acorns falling on my sandals to your last days of candy-crazed-costume fun, you are always a favorite. This October was the busiest I can remember. We traveled ALOT; a few mornings in a mountain cabin, one family wedding, one beautiful weekend in lovely Greenville for the Allume Conference, and then a few days of recovery time at home. October bursts at its red and yellow seams with good memories– and as much as I anxiously await November, October always seems to be just a few days too short.

Today I’m sharing what I learned in October with Emily Freeman– join me?

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Saying ‘No’ in the right way is life-giving and leaves room to breathe. This year I looked at what October held and opted out of the 31 Days of Writing Challenge. Not wanting to lose the discipline completely, I took up my own Instagram challenge called 31 Days of Noticing. It was my goal to be present in each day and notice something, large or small. It was great fun and I appreciated the discipline amidst the steady pace of the month. A few people joined in and you can check out the hashtag #31daysofnoticing on Instagram for more!

Stretching myself creatively is a good thing. This year at Allume, we had the chance to take part in one of several different Creative Sessions and I was so inspired, I stopped on the way out of Greenville and bought a small set of paintbrushes. I’ve never been a painter because I’ve always tried to paint in a style which isn’t easy or enjoyable for me. When I just relaxed and let myself enjoy the feel of acrylics on canvas– I had a completely different result. And it was fun.

Creative dryness looks a lot like exhaustion. At one point this month, I found myself exhausted and a little bit lost. Having worked toward a desired “result” for such a long time only to learn that the finish line was really just more road… and that said “finish line” was completely out of sight until further notice.

Disheartened and exhausted from throwing myself into something for so long left me quite unsure I wanted to keep going in the same or another direction. Sometimes quitting looks awfully attractive when going forward is hard. For several days I felt unmotivated and unable to take a step in any direction. What brought me back to the writing chair, was not really writing at all– but finding other ways to be creative for a few days. I cooked a lot. I developed new recipes. I created a new soup and a new cake and then made it again a few days later to perfect it. (Yes, we gave most of it away– thank goodness.) That is also when the painting day happened. And then I read ALOT. Good books. When I was ready to come back to writing after a few days, I started where I always should– with Scripture. Reading and writing scripture every morning has been a new habit and it has completely changed the way I retain the verses. The next time I feel empty– it will most likely be because I am and I need to be filled with the only One who can FILL me with Himself and His truth.

And so, we press on. Knowing that He has called us to these things– and when the things are hard and exhausting and it’s all “wait– WHAT?!!? Why am I still DOING this?!”   We can know, it is hard because it just IS. And we are ill-equipped to handle it alone. But God is good and He is always enough. 

What did you learn this October? I would love to hear!

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Comments

  1. Lyli @ 3dlessons4life.com says

    November 2, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    Cynthia, I love how you made the challenge work for you. Great “meeting you” through Emily’s linkup this week. 🙂

    Reply
    • HappyGoStuckey says

      November 2, 2015 at 4:08 pm

      HI Lyli!!! So glad to meet you as well. Such a fun way to meet “neighbors!”

      Reply
  2. achildoftherisenking says

    November 2, 2015 at 6:46 pm

    I am learning being assertive is okay. I am also learning as a people pleaser that if i say yes to everything I am not good at any of it. I am so drained.

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While we wait, and whatever it is that we wait for— may the space between be made sweeter by the knowledge that we never wait alone.
You can’t tell by their joy, but the day I snapp You can’t tell by their joy, but the day I snapped this photo was somewhat of a regular day.

What looks like a winter beach vacation was actually the tail-end of a masked lunch stop in the middle of a pandemic road trip.

This sparkling moment of sun-splashed fun was sandwiched between brutal conversations about regular life, especially the hard parts.

And this is how it is. 
These bits of life that we never see coming, they are enveloped between all that makes us tired, weary, sighing pilgrims in a world that was never really meant to be hospitable in the first place.

This photo reminds me to look again at our year, our season, our circumstances.

To look a second and third time.
To keep looking as long as it takes to see that the joy of our right now isn’t gone, it just might be hiding in the shadow of all that’s hard.

Brokenness is never vague. And we don’t have to search very long to see it both within ourselves and around us.
Sometimes the weight of that fact is crushing.
And then, sometimes it reminds us even more clearly of the light shining in darkness.

Joy is an act of defiance against despair and I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling rather defiant at the moment.✨✨✨✨

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Endurance can feel like standing still. Especially Endurance can feel like standing still. Especially if what we’re called to be about is the same as yesterday and last month. 
It’s difficult to meet each day with the same fervor and joy for what we are called to do, especially when at present, the progress seems small and immeasurable. 
But even then, perhaps especially so — our faithfulness matters.

When we cannot yet see the other side, the light at the end of this particularly long tunnel, we begin again.

Not because we will always wake with fresh energies and bright, sparkling hope for what comes next, friend. But because the God of Endurance (Romans 15:5) dwells within us.

“It is the grace of endurance granted to you by the God of endurance that provides you with everything you need to continue to be what he calls you to be and do what he calls you to do between this moment and the moment when you cross over to the other side. When difficulty exposes the weakness of your resolve and the limits of your strength, you do not have to panic, because He will endure even in this moments when you don’t feel able to do so yourself.” — Paul David Tripp, New Morning Mercies

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We have learned... The inestimable value of a goo We have learned...

The inestimable value of a good camp chair, for they have been used for everything from soccer benches and coffee dates to theatre seats and church pews.

What our neighborhood streets can offer in the way of an outing—from the colors of spring to the sparkle of Christmas.

To hold plans with the loosest hands possible.

To rejoice in things found. Time. Margin. ...and enough toilet paper to share with a neighbor.

To give grace and accept it for ourselves.

The hilarious joy of a group text complete with “have you seen this meme yet?” 

To pivot. And then pivot again.

To find more joy in candlelight closer to home, instead of the bright lights of traveled cities.

To perfect our pizza dough recipe and truly learn to prefer it over dinner out.

To work with yeast and flour again and again— until the message of waiting for something really good dusted our apron fronts and kitchen floors.

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In a year in which we’ve all lost quite a lot, you and I have been given so much as well. Some of what we’ve lost we have learned to be without. Some, we won’t go looking for again.

In 525,600 minutes and in all the things, found and lost and found again— there is far and away more to be grateful for.

And we choose joy.

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Not rushing too quickly into a new year over here. Not rushing too quickly into a new year over here. Though the one in our rear view window is one we wouldn’t choose to repeat, still it was one full of God’s nearness.

One day I’ll write it all down.
But for now I’ll just say,
we were not alone. 🕯
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C.S.Lewis, The Chronicles of Narnia

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